(GO TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS POST FOR THE Exercise )
When I was 14 I had a wonderful girlfriend. She made me happy.
We always listened to music together. At the time it was mostly "alternative" Danish bands like Psyched up Janis, Rhonda Harris, Trains And Boats and planes , 18th dye etc.
Brit pop like blur and Suede was also in our musical world -- but mainstream "alt-rock" like Nirvana , Pearl Jam and Stone Temple Pilots was a pretty big influence on our lives, clothes and general behavior.
But strangely enough, it is when I listen to the song "So Young" by Suede I "go back" to that place. It makes me feel a sense of optimism and a shines some sense of "freshness" to my current life - CURRENT- Current is the keyword here. Cause I do really feel some energy in my body because of the past. The past where I was in a great and to be honest - a pretty immature relationship where everything was new - having sex, writing love letters and meeting her parents. All that was new and exciting.
Here follows a slight detour from my overall point - jump to the * to proceed
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Immersion and age:
Some studies say, that when we become older we start experiencing time as speeding up.
A year when you are 36 feels like its running by faster than when you are 12. Actually a TV program made a test about this.The host of the show had a stopwatch. People on the street was asked if they could guess when a minute was up. The old said that a minute was longer than it was and the young said it was shorter than it was - as we get older we think a minute is longer than it is and thereby feels everything as going faster than when we are young.
Studies say that it is not a biological thing but a question of immersion. When we are 12 everything feels new and exciting because it is ..well NEW. But when your 64 you have a lot of memories and things feel old because you have tried them before. This makes a lot of stuff boring because we don't emerge ourselves in them as kids do. A day in a kids life might feel like a week for adults I guess.
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I use the song to go there - to get the energy from "back then" now.
This is my point :
"Every memory you have - good or bad - can work as a stimuli for your current mood and feelings. "
All your positive or useful emotions from the past can be recalled now and in the future for you to use.
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So this issue's assignment is this:
1.Think of 4 episodes in your life you liked:- that made you feel good, strong, happy, hopeful, helpful, energetic loving etc. - was it something someone said , something you did, achieved ...?
2. Press a place on your body for each of the 4 incidents / feelings: - ex. for number 1 - press your knuckle at your left pinky - press it a bit hard and think about the memory - feel the situation as it was - hear what happened - smell the place - see the other persons faces etc. for number 2 - a new knuckle .. and so on.
3. Press the point whenever you need to recall that emotion / situation
Now you have connected a mental resource to a physical action. Try to press the point you chose and see if it makes you think of the positive and/or constructive feeling. A good thing is to do this twice a day for 1 week - and then again a month later for another week - then it sticks.
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